Jess. Mid-twenties; married; geek. No one fandom defines me. Be warned: I am a fan of problematic and incestuous ships. For more of an idea about what you're signing up for if you follow me, check out my about me page.
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I think my biggest overall issue with Game of Thrones season three is the abundance of stagnant scenes.
At this stage, seven episodes in, I don’t think I say “overall” prematurely. They’re building towards events in each plotline that will rocket things forward, certainly, but the momentum will be brief, and it’s like they’ve been building without a plan. They put some foundations here, wander away, put some more there, forget about the first lot. It’s been a complete mess.
Screenwriting 101: there should be some kind of reveal in every scene. It can be big or small, but there needs to be one. I’m sick to death of all these scenes where we learn nothing we didn’t already know, at the cost of so much character development.
It doesn’t bode well for season four, that’s for damn sure, because after the chaos of Storm of Swords many of the plotlines become very insular with a focus on psychological development. The characters don’t move about much, physically (on a whole, there are some exceptions). D&D haven’t shown us much in the way of proving they’re adept to handle that shift in tone.
I mean, they haven’t shown us much more than naked ladies and torture porn this season, anyway.
I believe that there are a small group of women who hate men just for being men. I believe that the textbook definition of the word misandry fits that description. I believe there are bad things that happen to men. I believe those issues should be addressed. I do not believe that a fringe group of women who hate men can be blamed for those issues.
Misandry was a dead word until recently. A group of men who feared the progress of feminism revived the word and used it to undercut the movement. They like having the power being a man provides and they don’t want to lose that. So they created a movement, found a bunch of legitimate issues that affect men, and tried to blame women for those issues. They called this misandry. It’s like conservatives using buzzwords like “death panels” to make people fear health care. They let people assume it meant Obama wanted to kill your grandma. They let their cute little phrase infect the minds of good people and convince them of falsehoods.
People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men. But that just doesn’t make any sense to me. When I seek a logical explanation, it seems more likely that this is because men are supposed to be strong and women are supposed to be weak. And rape has been viewed as something that happens mostly to women. So if it does happen to a man, they must be weak. How did this idea of men=strong and women=weak start? I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because of misandry. It is an ancient patriarchy collapsing in on itself.
Feminism is about fighting inequality. It’s about erasing the strong/weak perception ingrained into our society. Misandry, as the term is often used today, is about trying to blame women for anything bad that happens to men.
If you want to fight to fix issues that affect men, go for it. But I would really consider distancing yourself from this term. It is used to evangelize folks into a movement that is very problematic. A group that can’t handle scrutiny of their comic books and video games, so they send death and rape threats. A group that calls women sluts and think they ask for rape if they show too much cleavage. Those are the people who coined this term, and you should want nothing to do with them or their language.
The frogman is the nicest neckbeard on the internet.
I really hate I when people say
“Men shouldn’t call women fat”
“Men shouldn’t abuse women”
“Men shouldn’t rape women”
“Men shouldn’t be sexist”When really it should be
“Nobody should call anybody fat”
“Nobody should abuse anybody”
“Nobody should rape anybody”
“Nobody should be sexist”Stop blaming men for everything
Abusive speech and violent behavior is not a gender issue, it’s a human issue.
Derailing 101. 99% of convicted rapists are men. Yes, it is men who need to be told not to rape.
Also, there is some serious straw feminism going on in this post. Abusive speech and violent behavior are apart of patriarchy, and factor into women’s issues for a reason which is why people talk about them in a gendered way… but you don’t see feminists talking about how only men can rape or only men can be sexist.
Clearly women can be sexist. Clearly women can be perpetrators of abuse. Women can rape. Women can call people fat. But erasing the motivations and complications of patriarchy from these issues doesn’t help us solve them.
you have not seen a bitchface until you’ve seen hannibal lecter after someone else takes credit for his kills
I find it quite jarring when I see posts on here to the effect of ‘stop hating on the writers, if you have a problem stop watching the show’ for…well, too many reasons to count really, but mostly because that’s basically the worst thing you can possibly say about problematic writing.
To cut a long and boring story short, I studied Creative Writing both at Master’s and Bachelor level at university, so a lot of my irl friends are writers. In our first week of classes, we were told to rewrite famous poems and then edit each other’s work as an ice breaker. We were all so worried about insulting potential new friends that those classes spawned some of the most awful poems I’ve ever heard. The most important lesson that any of us took from the first year of lessons was how important criticism is to the creative process. Over the years we stopped giving a shit about hurting each other’s feelings and scribbled notes all over each other’s work, moving one sentence here and changing this word to that word etc.
The fact of the matter is that we all like to think we’re the next Edgar Allan Poe or J.K. Rowling and our writing is incredibly profound but all it takes is one person to point out a logical fallacy or spelling mistake to reveal just how much work we have left to do. Nobody’s perfect and almost everything can be improved. That’s why critique is important.
We seem to have developed this misconception on tumblr that critiquing something is the same as expressing hatred, when it’s really, really not. It’s a privilege to have a pretty well financed show in a decent time slot. It’s a privilege to have an audience. A decent artist/writer will work damn hard to keep both. Audiences are not under the same kind of volition to keep watching as the writers are to keep them entertained. A viewer can switch off at any point for any reason and it’s incredibly useful to have an insight as to why that’s happening.
Tl;dr, I would rather have 10 people come up to me and say they disliked my writing because of x, y and z than 100 say they loved it out of concern that they might hurt my feelings. I feel insulted on behalf of screenwriters everywhere that people assume the same is not true of them.
Critique is respectful but honest and more likely to gain attention. Hate has its origins in honesty but loses any chance at getting attention when it throws aside its respect. Saying to somebody that you don’t value their critique and you would rather they stopped watching your show is the same as digging it an early grave, since fewer viewers means the show is less likely to be picked up for later seasons.
There is nothing wrong with expressing disappointment, irritation or any other negative emotion about how your favourite shows are written. Likewise, there is nothing wrong with expressing it to the writers, so long as you do it respectfully and aren’t an ass about it. If it’s not broken, then they won’t need to fix it. Likewise, if they don’t bother to fix a serious problem and things take a turn for the worse then it’s their own fault for taking their audience for granted.
Even more importantly, the attitude that we should silence any opinion we don’t agree with or remove it forever is, frankly, terrifying for the 21st century and not something we should be encouraging.
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if i had a golden dragon for every time sandor clegane makes an empty threat to arya i would be as rich as the lannisters
Spice World was a cinematic masterpiece and fuck you for thinking otherwise.
If you feel comfortable, or find it funny, to call a 9 year old a cunt, then you shouldn’t be surprise when someone walks into a classroom of 6 year olds and start shooting.
Your society is fucked up in more ways than one.
